Second post of the day

O.K.

The waters have calmed a little.

Let me backtrack a bit.

Sunday, Mothers Day, Wheelie, Bugs, Boo and I went to breakfast together, we had a marvelous time. Bugs loved the photo album I made and the three pictures framed.

Afterwards, the girls went on their way, and I crawled on the couch with my book.

At around 7pm Bugs called, all upset, Daddy was drunk, and calling her and leaving nasty text messages and voice mail.
He continued to do so until 5 am the next morning, when she turned her phone back on there were a ton of really bad, nasty, threatening text messages, and her voice mail box was full as well.

Talk about getting motivated. FINALLY she got it. On Monday morning she finished filling out her child support papers, and went for her interview, so she got that ball rolling. She then went to Verizon to have her phone number changed.

In these iffie domestic situations there is never really a good way to predict how this is going to go, or end.
But we were all sufficiently scared, so the girls decided to spend the night here.
First I went home with her to help her straighten the house a bit, feed the animals, and get the laundry, pack a few bags, make sure every door and window was locked.

Neither one of us slept very well last night, except Boo-boo, the little angel not being aware of all the hoopla around her.

So Bugs went to work this morning, and guess what, Daddy started calling her at work. He was furious that she changed her phone number, started to threaten her again, he wanted to come and GET his daughter, and he would bring the police if he had to.

Now, this boy is definitely not the sharpest knife in the drawer. He doesn't know his facts, so he sounded rather pathetic.

Bugs was told by the child support folks that he has absolutely NO rights whatsoever, even though his name is on the birth certificate. (something I've been telling her for over a year now)

Obviously he didn't believe it.

So the folks at CS must have called him, and he must have found out that indeed, he has no rights, that Bugs is the only person who has full custody, and she decides who sees Boo and when. He's obligated to support her financially though, I am not sure how they go about getting him to pay.

She had to tell her staff at work what was going on. Not much fun, since everyone knows everyone in this town, and who knows who is going to blow the lid, but we'll worry about that when or if it happens.

For now they are not taking his phone
calls at work, and he can't call her because he doesn't have the number of her cell phone.

I suggested Bugs save all those messages, and NOT delete them at any cost.

Now, for you who have ever been in situations like this, you will know that things can go very very bad indeed. He might be "nice" when he's not drinking, he might not have ever been physical with her, but....you hear the horror stories day, the odds are that this can escalate into something very ugly.

Getting a restraining order on him would be pointless. I mean, if he ever shows up at my door demanding to see Boo, I will call 911 so fast it'll make his head spin. Restraining orders (to me) only aggravate the person even more, and more often than not things get out of hand because of them. And usually the police won't DO anything until some serious damage has been done.

So....here's where things stand at this point. Bugs told him she wasn't going to let him see Boo until he gets everything straightened out, with the child support people, even taking a DNA paternity test (he was accusing her of Boo not being his baby at one point along the way, which is really funny, as they look exactly alike, I mean, no way is this NOT his baby!)

I have urged her to call Child/Family Welfare services and/or contact a lawyer. She's dragging her feet about that.

We'll see. She is slowly coming around in understanding that Daddy is not going to turn into prince charming overnight, especially with his drinking. (She kicked him out once before when she was 4 months pregnant)

So this morning I took Boo for a nice long calming drive (to get my bagels) and after that all three of us hopped (well...hopped...*S*) in the car and went to get a few groceries.

Thankfully Boo is letting me write for a while. She's taking a good nap. She is a good girl!

Thanks for those of you who have written me, I really appreciate your caring and your support.

SGMKJ!